How to choose your bridesmaids


Choosing your bridesmaids should be one of the most exciting parts of your wedding! Whether you have too many friends, don’t have enough friends, or just can’t decide how many to have, we’re going to cover it all for you right here, today.

I’m sure you have a ton of questions! How many bridesmaids should I have? Should my fiancĂ© have the same number of groomsmen? How do I choose between friends? What if I don’t want certain people in my wedding party? What if I want my grandmother in my wedding party? and plenty more……just read on!

When it comes to choosing people to stand by your side as you marry your best friend, make sure you have supportive, helpful, and loving friends. Did I say friends? I mean’t people. Bridesmaids don’t always have to be your friends. Family make wonderful bridesmaids.

First, let’s talk about the who. Not “The Who”, the “who”. Anyway, back to my go to for wedding planning, you’re going to make a list. Pull out that notebook and your favorite pen to get started. The first thing you’re going to do is write down a list of possible bridesmaids.

The next thing you’re going to want to do is discuss with your Groom-to-be, how many groomsmen he plans on having. Sometimes it’s easier to start with the guys because there tend to be less people he will want in his party, than you will want in yours.

Then, once you have that number from him, let’s narrow down your list. Instead of starting with people you want to keep in your bridal party, let’s start with who you would be okay eliminating first. This process can be as quick and painless or as dreadful as you make it. One by one, continue to eliminate people until you either have the same number of ladies as he has men, or until you’re comfortable with the number of ladies in your party. {It’s okay if you don’t have the same number girls as he has in guys. Trust me when I tell you that the men love to walk two ladies down the isle!}


Deciding how many people to have in your wedding party is completely up to you. There is no right or wrong number of people. Also keep in mind, just because someone else had you in their wedding does not mean they have to be in yours. While you may really want them in it, they don’t have to be standing up there with you. What if it’s someone you used to be friends with when she got married, but now that you’re a little older and getting married yourself, you two have drifted apart. That’s a-okay! Your bridal party should be filled with people you would still want in there in 100 years. When you look back at your wedding day in 50 years, wouldn’t you rather have your annoying, know-it-all step sister that you fought with every other day, than your “friend” who ditched you a few years later because you didn’t like her boyfriend {which whom she ended breaking up with anyway!}

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